Mommy Mad Days - Being a Single Mom 1

I love my quiet days a whole lot! I like to get my chores and projects done in my time, undistracted and at a quiet and peaceful moment of my choosing. No rush, no squealing, no crying and no shouting in the background. I know my daily responsibilities, and I schedule my commitments: work, personal and not so personal, with care. Days are to flow well and not be deluged with unplanned concerns leading to a flood of activities. Sometimes this may happen. No problem. I sort it out and life gets back on track. I like my schedule. It allows me to accomplish much. Much more than should I work and live without one.

But … what if you’re a mom? A mom who has one, two or maybe three kids? They’re all yours! You’re a single mom. Yours all day, and every day. You may work, you most probably do – you’re the sole, the only financial provider.

You can plan, you can schedule, but you never seem to have an undistracted, quiet and peaceful moment. Rushing, squealing, crying and shouting are most often the noises you hear – or it seems that way! It’s hard isn’t it?

It becomes more and more difficult when there is no-one in close proximity to be of help to you. Someone who can take your children out for an hour or three, or who can watch your children and allow you to go out too. We’re not talking party time here, we’re talking grocery shopping, fellowship, friends, talk-time. Building, strengthening, and endurance time. Those things we need to do to keep on walking, to have the patience, to live and to function well in the lives given us.

So what does a single mother do when weighed down under the cares she carries? What are her options? How is she to function well in the multi-faceted responsibilities that are hers? Her first priority is to take a break. Not just any break! She is to find time and call a counselor – a Biblical counselor. She should do this irrespective of whether she is a firm, strong believer in the Lord, a young and new believer, or a mom struggling to find meaning in life.

When making an appointment ask your local church to help with babysitting, explain to them the reason for this. If you are not able to do this, discuss it with your counselor, maybe she can be of help for the first appointment.

I know for many, whether a single mom or not, reaching out and asking for help can be hard to do. A good counselor will listen, they will help you develop plans and backup plans to be of blessing to you and your family. This is what discipling is. It is part of how the church functions. It’s what they’re supposed to do. Together you will find the answers to help you be strong, and to persevere – to live the life given you.

Now, if you’re a single mom with three energetic children we will work together to encourage and strengthen you in the weeks to come. We will give counsel so you too can learn how to glorify the Lord more and more in the days to come.

• These words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise (Deuteronomy 6:6-7).

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